“Pain isn’t a prerequisite for intimacy.”
We’ve been taught to mistake struggle for connection.
If it burns, it must mean passion. If it’s confusing, it must be deep.
But what if real love isn’t a battle?
What if it’s quiet joy? Safety? Ease that doesn’t bore, but steadies?
The right person will not confuse your nervous system. They will quiet it.
Don’t confuse adrenaline with alignment. Sometimes what’s most true is what comes most gently.
Breathe into your belly. Say aloud: 'I release the need for struggle in love.'
Recall a moment that felt peaceful with someone — not exciting, but steady. Honor it as a sacred sign.
Jaylen K. “I kept chasing people who triggered me — I called it chemistry. Then someone came along who didn’t — and I felt love, not survival.”
Safe doesn’t mean boring. It means ready.