Day 10: Grief and Gratitude Can Coexist
“You are allowed to mourn what you lost and cherish what remains — at the same time.”
Teaching
Some days you might feel grateful just to have known them.
Other days, that same thought might break you.
This is the strange alchemy of grief: it doesn’t cancel gratitude, and gratitude doesn’t cancel grief.
You can cry and still say thank you.
You can miss them and still smile at what you had.
You can ache and still feel awe for the love that created the ache in the first place.
Let go of the idea that you must choose.
You don’t have to be ‘over it’ to feel grateful.
And you don’t have to be cheerful to honor the beauty that was.
Today, hold both. The sorrow. The gratitude.
Let them sit beside each other like old friends who no longer argue.
Because healing is not in picking sides — it’s in welcoming the fullness of what it means to love and lose.
Perspectives from the Masters
Meditation
Sit with your eyes closed. Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly. As you breathe in, think: 'I am still grieving.' As you breathe out, think: 'And I am still grateful.' Repeat gently for several rounds. Let both truths live together.
Action
Write a list of five things you’re grateful for about the person you lost. Not to ‘cheer up’ — but to remember what’s still with you, even now.
Success Story
Mateo D. “I felt guilty for being thankful. Like it meant I was done grieving. But this lesson changed me. Now I let myself say, ‘Thank you for existing,’ even when the tears are falling. That’s love, too.”
You can carry both the ache and the blessing. That’s what hearts were made for.
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