Day 21: You’re Allowed to Redefine Normal
“The life you had is gone — but a new rhythm will come, slowly, sacredly.”
Teaching
The world keeps turning.
People return to their routines. Deadlines reappear. Birthdays pass. Holidays come.
And you’re supposed to return to 'normal.'
But normal doesn’t exist anymore.
Not in the way it used to. Not after this kind of loss.
And that’s okay.
Your mornings may be slower now. Your social battery may run out faster. Your joy might take more effort. Your memory may feel full of fog.
You are not broken. You are adjusting to a new gravity.
Give yourself full permission to redefine what normal means for you now.
Maybe it's less. Maybe it’s quieter. Maybe it includes rituals others don’t understand.
Let your new rhythm be shaped by kindness, not comparison.
The life before is sacred. But so is the life you’re slowly learning to live now.
Perspectives from the Masters
Meditation
Sit with your feet grounded. Place your hands in your lap, open. Say softly: 'It’s okay if everything is different now.' Breathe into that truth. Feel the space it creates.
Action
Choose one routine or expectation you’ve been forcing. Give yourself permission to stop, soften, or rewrite it today. Let grace, not pressure, guide the decision.
Success Story
Haley V. “I kept pretending everything was fine because I didn’t want to make others uncomfortable. But pretending was exhausting. Once I gave myself permission to create a slower pace, everything softened. I’m not who I was — and that’s okay.”
Your grief rewrote the map — and that means you get to walk differently now.
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