“Joy is not a betrayal of grief — it is a companion to it.”
It can feel strange when joy returns.
Like laughter might mean you’ve moved on. Or worse — that you’ve let go.
But joy doesn’t erase grief. It holds its hand.
You are not betraying your love by smiling. You are honoring it by continuing to live.
Grief isn’t a wall — it’s a doorway. And sometimes, through that doorway, light finds its way back in.
You might hear a song and sing along without crying. You might notice a flower blooming and actually feel glad it exists.
You might laugh. Not because you forgot. But because your heart is making space for all of it now — sorrow and sweetness together.
This is not disloyalty. This is survival. This is what it means to be whole.
Let joy visit when it does. Welcome it like an old friend you’d given up on. It’s not here to replace your grief — just to sit beside it.
Find a quiet moment. Close your eyes and place your hand over your heart. Think of something small that made you smile this week — even a flicker. Breathe into that moment. Let it rise without guilt. Say gently: 'Joy, you are welcome here too.'
Do one small thing today that used to bring you joy — a favorite food, a song, a walk, a color. Let it remind you: joy is still allowed to live here.
Elena R. “For the longest time I couldn’t laugh without crying. I thought joy meant I was letting go of him. But one day, I laughed at a memory — and realized he was in the joy too. Not gone. Just different.”
Grief is the echo of love. Joy is its melody still playing underneath.